Mariah and Nick. Demi and Ashton. Why is there a sudden uprising of older woman to younger men? Has this become trendy or has older women flipped the script.
But the real question is: Can it work?
Thursday, June 19, 2008
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In my idea any relationship between two people can work with the right amount of compassion, communication, and understanding. I have dated younger men before and it didn't work out for me. Their mind just wasnt in the same place as mine and what I mean by that is different relationship issues are dealt with differently on all different age levels. My guy was extremely jealous, would go through my phone, my emails, my purse everything trying to find numbers or anything he could to prove I was cheating because I was soo laid back about things that he was excited about that it must have meant that I was cheating. There would be times when he wanted to kick it with his guys, and I'd be like fine, because when I am in a relationshiip (committed) I am there for "the forever" so I don't feel like I have to spend every waking hour with you. He however didn't feel that way when the tables were turned. That hypocrisy along with the insecurities of youth are two things that I cannot deal with. Maybe the age difference is a factor as well in terms of HOW much older you are than your younger guy, but as for me, anything more than a five year age difference is completely physical, we won't think about things the same way, one is too stubborn and set in their ways, and the other thinks they know everything already without having been anywhere or done anything. For this water sign it is too much of an emotional roller coaster to even entertain....
Maybe it's because some older men lack the adventure and bad boy appeal that drive women wild. A guy your age or older will mainly splurge (which is good) to show you a good time. It's cool be with an established well off man but it gets boring. But what about when you want to have silly school girl fun. You will not get it from a senior guy. The juvenile characteristics of a younger guy who doesn't lack maturity is refreshing. Older men are set in their ways. They are less likely to try new things that are considered "hip" because it's childish to them. They also always wanna put you up on something by teaching you about old skool shit. Well I'm a present day person. If I'm listening to get low music my older guy will say, "see this aint real music...real music is Levert". okay, don't nobody wanna hear that shit. My young dude will get behind me and we'll dip it low. And when a young nigga gets too old you can trade him in for a new one. Unfortunately, some women can't support themselves so they need a father figure for stability and guidance. When your relationship is a business opposed to a celebration of a union and pure enjoyment of one another..you're doomed regardless of the age difference.
Your purse? Would it happen to me that 1996 Dooney and Bourke that Miranda spoke of the other day?...LOL! Sorry, you were wide open honey.
see my screen name for your reply....
Good One Airforce, but back then the numbers were kept in pagers. LOL,
Speaking from a guys point of view, i have always dated older. Those relationships didn't really work to well as I found that the older party was trying to be a parental figure as opposed to being my equal partner. Piggybacking off what Air Force said, relationships are supposed to be a celebration of a union, I wasn't on the level of many of the people I dated (older) but something about my persona attracted them. I have always been more mature than my age bracket, but i wasn't necessarily ready to DATE outside of it...
(btichplease08) I'm sorry what does that mean? You may want to consider taking Miranda up on her spell check advice...LMAO!
.... and you may one to take note of the "check" that Miranda got for being way to anal on a blog site, I know its equally as hard for perfection to tolerate imperfection as it is equally as hard for first class to tolerate coach
I don't recall being checked, and I don't need a cheerleader either Airforce, your "sis boom bas" are not needed. Bitchplease you haven't learned to spell yet?
U-G-L-Y you aint got no alibi.
M-A-M-A how you think you got that way!
I have learned to spell, but you all are so easily strung along like puppets. I know that if i mispell something, then the Blog Police will be on it because without my mistakes you have no intelligence to display. God forbid you actually comment on the blog sunject, I mean it is the topic at hand correct? I understand, Large minds talk about events, medium minds talk about places, and small minds talk about people, your ignorance is forgiven along with the synthetic fibers in your closet that pose as a wardrobe....
"Synthetic Fibers" Girl you don't know me, there aren't any garments in my closet that aren't LABELS!!
Payless, Rainbow, Dots, and Thrift do not suffice as labels dear, try again...
"Fire-cracker, Fire-cracker"
(sis boom bah)
Bugs Bunny, Bugs Bunny
Rah! Rah! Rah!
LMAO!
Sorry Miranda, but Carrie was the FABULOUS one.
she was also the broke one having champagne dreams with beer money...
Miranda is my favorite one, and I am sooo disappointed that you have adopted her persona, you are the equivalent to Spring Break "No Class"
Damn Miranda ( or should we call you BOGO)look like you need a pep rally a cheerleader and a lifeguard because BP is getting yo ass rite 2gether.
well I have dated younger men before, and i admire the way they look up to you, admire your sophistication, and give you that school girl crush treatment everything is an adventure with them. I am ALL for dating younger men, their youth sustains mine. As for BP and say my name they haven't said anything to me that the men in her life haven't said to them....
ladies please stop the fighting.no if u want to let out your angry you can always come over to my place and i will relax both of you...and get all your tension out..
Oh Brad....you wouldn't know what to do with some chocolate.
and my screenname is exactly what the men in your life say to you, must we have this verbal slaughter EVERYDAY Miranda? I mean God put us here on this earth to progress, from day to day the only thing progressing is the amount of insults we can hit you with in a single blog. You're pitiful do the world a favor and go play in traffic blindfolded... Ugh, I mean it lowers my IQ 2 whole points to even talk to you....
i LOVE chocolate,always have always will.I know how to make chocolate melt and heat up some coco...turn down the lights put on some soft music rub u all nite long...
Brad, the screen name above mine says everything I need it to in response to your statements...
Do tell, so what flavor are you?
See there is only one kind of white person strictly vanilla. Don't get me wrong white boyz doing they thang.
But can you handle the different kinds of chocolate.
Milk Chocolate, Dark Chocolate, Alpine White Chocolate (Hi yella hoes) and then there's chocolate with nuts ( bitches with kids)
and whats that i am so slow marenda.
Oh Brad...she finna get you!
that would be M-i-r-a-n-d-a, its right there in black and white, and Bitchplease was the screen name I was speaking of.....
Wanna get together to make some swirl Brad, thats if you can handle it...
i can handle any type of chocolate,i love woman of color.Its not if i can handle them ,its can they handle me.
i would love too bitchplease just say when
Brad, Miranda's stank attitude is the exact reason why some black men dont date black women. She is the Wicked Witch of the West clad in the exclusive rainbow threads.
paige is that you?say my name?
Ok Brad you're getting weird.
so what makes you hard to handle?
Not just me, I was asking about all choco products. Thats all.
everrthing bitchplease..wanana try?lol
say my name..hmmmmm i can make u srceam my name...
Wait a minute how could my stank attitude be the poster for black women when I am not black? Maybe its not the attitude of these women that keep them single, maybe its just the fact that they are not quality women and are little girls walking around in grown women Jimmy Chews....
and whose stank ass attitude would you be defending anonymous, as that statement was directed toward Miranda!! So you're gonna defend yourself and then say you're anonymous, not the brightest bulb in the pack are we?
If it is a trend, I got 1st dibs on Halle Barry jack! In real life though, there is no one answer to that question? It [the question] is so complex, that the answer itself would come in variations to say the least. I will use myself as an example; I am 32 years old, I look like I am 25, but act like I am 45, in that order. Older women seem to (to use an old school colloquialism) “take a liken to me” because of that. It’s like a three in one package w/o robbing the proverbial cradle. You could look at it like maybe some older women start w/ an entirely different intention and then it (as most of us knows) takes on a life of its own. To brake it down even further…..some just wanted to get a shot of a little jack-rabbit for shits & giggles, however, as most of us already have learned familiarity breeds contentment….then that familiarity turns into feelings, turned into probable love/relationship. I guarantee if you ask 90% of these older women including Mariah & Demi, I pledge neither one had love in mind when they hooked up w/ the younger guy from the giddy-up. The hook up may have been intentional, but I promise you the relationship part was something that arbitrarily happen…think about it?
Hey Mello, I must agree with you and I speak from experience because I have been messing around with a younger guy with strong maturity, not to mention, its been two years now. He's good looking, has a good job, definitely stands on his own, knows what he wants in life and also pursuing his dreams of becoming an actor/model. He's always had a liking for older women because as he says, "they're established, they know what they want and they don't play games like the women his age. He's on top of his game and he takes care of business. We enjoy each others company as well as conversation. We have a wonderful time, every time we're together and its not always about the sex, which indeed is wonderful as well. Of course there has been times we had to agree to disagree, and vice versa, but that's what communication is about. So I believe there's a strong possibility it can work for those who choose to take on the older/younger opponent.
Church...
1st Anonymous " Jimmy Chews", what are we gonna do with you. JIMMY CHOO darling. Further if you're not a sista how could you possibly think that you're the poster for anything black. Girl...get it together. But, welcome to the chat! You got us a little confused here but we gonna work with you...LOL! You may evem wanna use a code name so you will know exactly when we are talking to you. CLick on Name/URL and be whoever your little heart desires.
Anonymous #2, so what's the deal with Jr. I mean is he just action or are you looking to have a relationship with him? From what you say, you seem fulfilled. How much younger is Jr.
I hope you don't mind me calling him Jr.
Mello, so how old is too old for you? Do I sense a little Eddie Murphy - Eartha Kitt ( Marcus/Lady Eloise) action...LOL!
Meeelllooo Daahhling! LOL
(Anon #2) Calling him Jr. does not offend me at all...Right now, he's conversation and entertainment. We both seem to fulfill each other. As mature adults, its a situation we chose. He's 10 years younger and acts 10 years older. Very respectable young man. I would say it has a lot to do with his upbringing.
Anon#2 and Mello, what you two say makes a lot of sense. I too am in a situation where I just wanted to take the young boy for a spin but it's been damn near a year later and I can't bring myself to honestly admitting that I am absolutely smitten by this youngen when I indeed am. He really makes me feel comfortable and good and like a lady. I sometime have to guide most men and tell them how I need to be treated (poor upbringing). He is absolutely the best to me. Even if we never had sex again and went off of each others energy, I would stay in it for the long haul. Damn, I never looked at it this way. I think I may be in love. WTF!
Anonymous and Mello I agree with both of you. Ive been seeing my guy for two years now (he's 12 years younger than me) and it didn't start off with me looking to date some one younger. It just happened. He's very mature for his age at times I feel like he's 40 and I'm 28. We have great convo and we have a lot of things in common. Yes I think it started of sexual but now it has developed into something totally different. When we are out no one thinks I'm older than him because I've kept myself up and I look like I'm in my early 20's. I use to think guys who were more than five years younger than me was not my type but he has change my way of thinking......
nikki,your boy is not only seeing u believe me.he has more girls he see besides you.What the hell is he going to stay with you for?sex thats it.no one wants a old lady that invests in wrinkle cream and her legs are black and blue has lots of vains on them.Maybe you are the only one that he can get or he is blind..
Mello said, "however, as most of us already have learned familiarity breeds contentment….then that familiarity turns into feelings, turned into probable love/relationship. I guarantee if you ask 90% of these older women including Mariah & Demi, I pledge neither one had love in mind when they hooked up w/ the younger guy from the giddy-up. The hook up may have been intentional, but I promise you the relationship part was something that arbitrarily happen…"
This is so true. (great thoughts Melo). I don't think most of the OWYM relationships is intentional, usually the older women wouldn't have thought twice about even looking at a younger man until they get approached by one. If the younger man comes correctly, then that comfort level is there and the interests may arise and so on and so on...
Dr. Life GO FUCK YOUR MOTHER. You have just offended every woman who will or has entered this site. Yo Mama is a wrinkeld bitch. When was the last time you even seen the parts of a pussy you loser. The ladies on here have all said that they have been in relationships with these young men. Ashton nor Nick are complaining about there mature ladies. Fuck youand your ignorance. Matter of a fact your pathetic ass needs not comment any fucking Retarded Bitch. How's your right hand, pussy!
I am requesting that no one reads or responds to Dr. Life. He's an ignorant bitch who lacks home training. Everyday we get a stupid mother fucker on here who talks out the side of his ass. Better yet the contributors should delete or block his IP address from even joining our topic. Look for idiot site and share your worthless opinions there. Bitch!
Oh goodness "Say my name" why all the harsh words! You may not agree with what "Dr." says but don't take it heart ;)
You lack humor with your asinine statements. Dr. Life. Clown...kill yourself. Go play in traffic, backwards while blindfolded. Don't digrace Dr.s cause I'm sure you most likeley hold a GED as your highest level of education completed.
whoa, Say My name although Dr lIfe has shown poor taste and an obvious lack of coothe we must try to not feed into anyone's opinon. We are for entertainment purposes only, and if Dr Life is entertained by the plight of an older woman with a younger man then so be it. Dr Life I would refrain from insults as these are real people with real issues. If you want to trash talk please interact with bitchplease08 and Miranda Hobbs as they are the comic relief on this site. If you cannot comply you can and will be banned from this site...Thank you kindly..
Very well put h20!
My apologies to the site but He's just fucking rude.
Dr. Life I find your comments to be ignorant and uncalled for. It’s people like you that give our Country a bad name. Just reading your comment I bet you are a racist pig. You don’t like woman because they can’t stand you. You don’t like mixed couples because deep down inside you wish you had a black woman. Black men intimidate you because they have charisma that you lack. Men like you make me sick to my stomach. If you had any since you would’ve thought long and hard before you made your stupid a$$ comments. Oh I forgot you don’t have a brain to think with. You call yourself Dr. Life your more like Dr. Stupid!
yes and I am ready for Nurse Death er um Dr Life too....
(Anon #2)Say my name and Nikki-to heck with what "Dr." has to say. Firefly, your comment was on point. Being in love with a younger man is a good thing (to me). Again, you two chose to carry out this relationship/situation and in the end no one has to deal with it but the two of you. I am very fond of my guy and he feels the same way. We spend hours on the phone, talk 8-10 times a day, can see each other and still not get tired of one another, even after two years...it just get better and better, etc. It too depends on what we bring to the table--alot of food for thought. Say my name, like you said, we can cut off the sex and still thrive off each others energy. Personally, I know what we feel for one another, and its a wonderful feeling, but being the age I am, I try not to use too many "terms of endearment" until I KNOW that I'm going to be in this for the long haul...just my p.o.v!
I think it does not matter how young or old two people that love each other are.Its just a number and thats it.Look at how older man go out with younger woman,it does not matter as long as they love and respect each other.Everyone person is not the same and has different taste as to she/he who they are in love with.It doesnt say that a man has to be older than the woman does it?"Live life and share your love with someone that make you feel like u r the only one aorund.peace,dont hate,love people..brad
Anon #2 I feel you girl. I've been seeing my guy for two years too and I enjoy our many conversations we have through out the day. And I enjoy the just being there times. We both know it isn't the sex that keeps us being with each other. It what we have to offer each other. Lif is to short to have so many hang ups.... Peace and love ladies
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