Monday, July 28, 2008
Statute of Limitations
How long should your friend wait before they date your Ex....weeks, months, a few years? Better yet, is that type of behavior even acceptable by you? If the shoe were on the other foot would you date your ex's friend? Please outline your terms and repercussions.
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Well my friends can feel free to date all my exs maybe the will have better luck than I did. I totally live by the philosophy you have to try them(men) all out to see which one is for you. I wouldn't necessarily date any of my friends exs if I know they still had deep feelings for them but if I find one that I really like and I know that their relationship was strictly physical then I might give it a go!
Hell to the nol. there will be all kind of ass kicking and tire slashing if they do. I wouldn't date my x friend unless I was trying to get even.
I think a real friend wouldn't ever date one of your xs no matter what the nature of your relationship use to be. That is something I would never do and I would hope that my friends would never do that to me! There are more than enough men in this world were you should never have to date any of your friends xs.
@ DWBH, but what if your friends ex is your possible soul mate or the love of your life. Do you pass up the one who could truly love you for life for your friends sake? Is there any amount of time that should pass before you consider entertaining the thought?
Excuse me Knowitall, you will KILL somebody over Mr. 085. Or are you over that.
The person that is your soul mate wouldn't have dated your friend you have to trust and believe that the person that is for you will be. Maybe another life time would be long enough for you to date a friend's x to me.
NO I WILL NOT HE HAS TEN KIDS HE IS OPEN GAME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well Air if you really feel that person is for you then go ahead I'm just saying for me I would never date a friend's x!
Well I don't care who has dated who if I want him I going to date him. You can't be sitting around holding your feeling inside for somebody just because your friend use to date them. Girl please most of my friends have slept with, dated,loved everybody! If I sat around trying to dodge this one dodge that one I would have nobody!
This is a tricky subject especially for men. As a man you are really not supposed to care about things of this nature. We live by the "once we through who gives a f*** what they do" and most times that is the case. The uncomfortable zone arises when you start thinking about how LONG the friend liked your ex, how much time they spent together and so forth. In my idea, I wouldn't date any of my friends exes, I mean we are we to expect any different treatment that our friend got? Granted it MIGHT be you friends fault as to why the relationship didn't work, however do we really want to take that chance?
I've heard that men don't care like about you use to sleep with they friends and things of that nature is that true at all h20.
I wish a bitch would date one of my exes!! No just kidding. To me the amount of time and the happiness of the friend plays a major role in the fact of if it is acceptable or not. Unfortunately this issue is a double edged sword. If I'm dating a man and we break up and my friend (in a months time) ends up dating the fool then of course I will be like damn bitch was you scheming on my man the entire time (Hoes do that). But if its situation where 2 years and 2 boyfriends later then chance are I won't care. It also depends on how close they were with the person before you dated them. I mean, I would hate to be the friend who starts dating the man that one of my friends was supposed to marry!! That would be very uncomfortable. A TRUE soul mate wouldn't find love with a friend of a person they were intimate with, God's plan for love doesn't work that way...
Men do care.. ESPECIALLY if love was involved. We act as if we don't but somehwere deep down inside we do, if only to wonder what about us wasn't good enough and how was our guy better?
Now if the girl was crazy, and we are better off, then we are wishing the next man good luck and glad to be done!!!
LOL!!!! ;)
@ H20 if you are the friend receiving the friends ex are you gonna look at her like she's a 304 or loose or something like that?
For me personally I wouldn't date any of my friends ex. And I don't expect for my friend to date any of my ex. A true friend wouldn't hurt you like that. A true friend would be there for you not trying to creep with your ex. As women we tell our true friend almost everything about our men and as a true friend you don't take advantage of that. If a so called friend wants to date my ex-husband I think my kids would want to kick her a$$. Honestly friendship should be regard as a sacred relationship.
Considering the fact that I have cared for so few people, I'd be outdone if my girls got with them. I would imagine that it would be so uncomfortable that I would end the friendship. For that reason, I wouldn't date my friends ex either. If it were someone that they dated but never really went anywhere I would proceed.
@AF1 so you are saying you would date your friends jump offs but not someone they were in a relationship with?
Knowitall, considering a few of our buddies have HIT the entire CHicago metropolitan area and surrounding suburbs, I'd be looking all my life to try to date someone they didn't have their claws in. Don't forget they've bust down damn near everybody at yesterday's picnic. You and I was new booty to everyone out there. WHAT!!!!!
Yeah don't i know it lol!!!!!!
A vic is fare game. Just as long as he threw giving me money. When I'm done running threw his pockets yall come get him and better tax his ass to. If not then you stupid. My moma told me don't come home with youre ass wet and your pockets dry.
Naa me personally wouldn't have anything to do with ANY of my friends exes, thats just me. I don';t find interest in sloppy seconds. When God has designed someone FOR ME, he will not have been with any of my friends... I believe that!
LMAO @ O-G Henny Loc a.k.a Atari.
Wow H20 that's big of you because most men wouldn't pass up a chance to smash one of their homies jump offs!!! LOL!!!!
Cmon Atari!! Your mom and my grandma went to the same college of communication!!!
Oh wait a min KIT, smashin is completely different from marrying...
I think the friend would only be upset if things worked out between you and the ex now that might open up a whole new can of worms!!! She might start to really hate you especially if she liked him and he didn't wife her but he wife's you that might kill it!!!
agreed!
BP thas OLD SKOOL pimpery at it's finest. Maybe if these young girls knew the difference in they cooch from a whole in the wall they'd be much better off.
they know the difference, they just don't find either to be worth more than the other....
Okay I'm here. I agree with BP08 (someone please hand me a barfbag as I type that) in the idea that timing and the happiness of the friend after the breakuip mixed with the intesity of the friends relationship with the guy or girl all play major parts in whether it will be deemed as tolerable. But my question is this, who do you bitch too when the bastard or the skeez pisses you off, will your friend actually have an objective ear to listen?
I'm pretty sure you have more than one friend so you can talk to anybody about him that's not even an issue. If it were me you could talk to me about my ex and I would give you insight on nigg.
Miranda if your man can stand waking up next to you, then I'm sure you can stomach agreeing with me. You're so not top drawer...
Must we have this convo again today? I so tire of insulting you
Well I fell in love with one of my friend's ex's they were not in a relationship but they did sleep together! They haven't seen or talk to each other in about 8mths or so! And he approached me and stated that he thought I was a beautiful girl he had no idea who I was but I know who he was. He was sweet and sincere when he spoke to me about his future plans for his life I fell for him immediately! I still really like him to this day but me and him are not involved.
He aint her ex then and you shouldn't worry about it. People can't keep tabs on who they just screwed.
Me personally, if I like them...I'm goin (on my momma) shit life is too short & this city is too small whatayagonnado? As for someone dating any of my X, getcha money, thats why they are my "X" and it isnt like its no bad blood w/ me and them. They are x-girlfriends not x-wives not to be confused.
Most of us in here are over 30,so some of the people we dated was back in the early 90's and shit like that. You cannot seriously say don't touch NONE of my X______...its not realistic? I understand it should be some limits for example; friends shouldn't date kids Mother or Father (u can Marry mine though..please) thats reasonable. But to be stingy, is like a kid w/ a lot of toys that doesnt want to share w/ anybody...even though they don't play w/ the toys no more
Agreed Mello, the amount of time does play a significant factor.
The key word here is ex. I can see how this may create a problem. At the end of the day life is too short and you must do what makes you happy. Friends and men are both replaceable.
Mello, NO....not over thirty here. Sorry! LOL!!!!!
That's right life is too short you gots to get while the getting is good jus be careful lol !!!!!!!!111
AF1..oooh okay, I forgot 30 is the new 20...you forgot I saw your drivers license before..lol
...nobody else in here better not say they are not in the 30+ club either, like im the vet...esp. for the ones that went to SCHOOL w/ me...lol
Straight up Mello, I haven't crossed over to the terrific thirties yet.
I don't have a problem with my age !!!!
I know thats right knowitall!!!Damn-it we made it and still look good and young..LMAO!
-AF1, kick rocks rookie...we will holla @ you when you get grown & sexxxy..lol
I am in love with one of my friend's ex boyfriends. They had a 3yr relationship and have been broken up for a least 8mths. He saw me one day and we started talking he's really cute and I really like him we have been talking on the phone and secretly dating we have not have sex yet I don't know how to break this too my friend but things are getting deep between us I don't know what to do someone help
I have reached 30 but fortunately all of my younger friends look older than me. I would gladly choose to be older but look younger them tobe younger and look older...
Deilima that's really dangerous grounds you are treading on. If your friend was in a long term relationship with this guy why would you even indulge in any type of personal relationship with him. I think you should break it off with and find someone else your friendship is more important than this guy who you probably only think you like.
This is when you use the term "friend" to describe your association with him. Don't tell her yet. See where it goes. If it falls apart, then oh well. Deal with how to tell her when and if that time comes.
You should've thought about this before you guys started seeing each other. She's going to be mad as hell whenever she finds out about you two. So ride it. See what happens.
I can tell you now she's gonna wanna kick your a@@ after 3yrs there has to be some pretty deep feeling between them 2..... She's proally not going to be friends with you anymore you jus have to decide if he's more important or your friendship with her is more important!
WHOA that is a HARD decision to make for some....
Truth be told we are all going to do what we want anyway in terms of the topic at hand? Even if we have to be discreet, which incidentally can be your best friend…
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