Monday, August 18, 2008
She Loves me....He loves me not!!
In the dating game, almost 85% of the goal is to meet someone fall in love and get married. There are some who seem to just want to "get it wet" but for those who are looking for that significant other when is TOO SOON to admit you may be falling in love? Is there a time period that must expire before we explore the possibility? Or is there a such thing as love at first sight? Ladies do you tell him and risk him testing out his Cross Trainers, or wait until he says it even though you may be feeling it long before? Men do you go out like a suckah and express yourself or do you wait till she says it first?
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I believe that you should define what you are looking for in the beginning mentally if not verbally. Know what the person you are dating is looking for as well as know what you are looking for. More times than not, people are afraid to express feelings because they are unsure of what the person those feelings are directed at will say or do. Knowing what you both are looking for will alleviate some of the threat.
I think you should tell a person immediately if you love them. If let the person know how you feel then you can see how they feel about you and decide what to do with the relationship or see if you should even deal with this person anymore.
Love Schmuv....Nothing lasts forever. So you can tell him/today, tomorrow or next year it will still come to an end. Have a good day!
whoa airforce, who peed in your litter box this morning?
I wlll never admit to being in love first!! Even if I am and he never says it, it will be like an unspoken rule or something. I will never shift the balance of power from me to him I don't care what anyone says....
I would like to formally induct Af1 into the BBC(Bitter Bitch Club) ON this date 8/18/08. Congraudlations!
welcome Airforce, me Miranda and knowitall knew you'd be here soon!!!
I'm not bitter I just don't have any patience and I just think love is for the birds and suckers!
AF1 please come and accept your membership kit! We have a lot of benefits and resources please sign-up for your first NO Sir Meeting ASAP!
also please receive your complimentary "OH no this nigga didn't" blackberry as we will want to keep in contact with you at all times. You will need to report every story or instance of love that you think you have found so that we may show you how stupid yo ass is for falling for it.
We will also need you to repeat our mantra, "niggas aint shit, and I know it aint my fault" at least 7 times a day facing due east...
LMAO!!!! @ bp08, not the bitter bitch club...
Yall got room for a slightly bothered ass hole member?
Excuse me Ms. President (knowitall), Managing Director (Miranda Hobbs) and CEO (Bitchplease) I am not bitter. Love was never what I wanted because I thought I'd miss out on something or someone. Besides I knew early on that my boos would end up dead or in jail so I never planned a future.
My disbelief in love is from all of the couples that are everything but happy in their relationships. I refuse to set myself up for failure.
hence making you bitter, airforce..
didn't we already go through the bylaws and the bitter bitch creed knowitall?
Shes still in denial, aww thas so cute a newbie!!
It's okay airforce it will hurt alot less if you don't fight it, let teh bitterness flow through you, accept it, for it is your destiny....
LOL!!!
Shawty said the nigga that I'm with aint shit / cause he don't do this and he wont do that/ Just like a refund I'm finna send his ass back.
You must make the best out of every situation. If someone isn't making you happy just leave. Life is too short. We're only promised 70 years. Move on love again. Tell people you love them. If they want to take advantage of your love-leave. Love should be precious not a struggle for control. Celebrate what you feel for one another.
Knowitall...Bitchplease, literally. Like i said you are Prez of the BBB. Bitter Bitches Bureau.
BP and Miranda, what the hell are y'all talkign about? Weren't you two just singing the hook from Minnie Ripperton's loving you a few chats back. That's what I mean...why be put on an emotional roller caoster (Vivianne). I don't have the Energy (Kerri Hilson) for all of th back and forth (aaliyah)
I reiterate "Love is for the birds and for suckers"
LOVE= U+SOME MAN RUNNING THE HELL OVER YOU!
yes I was and I am STILL SINGING that, I haven't the slightest idea why i am even included in this bitter bitch club...
If I really like a guy I let him know but at the same time I also let him know he will not be allowed to take advantage of my weakness for him because I may want him really badly but I don't need him. The l word is very different if a man doesn't tell me he loves me first I will go to my grave loving him and he will never know this!
Regardless to what hook I was singing, we all are in chorus on today, now get back to the soprano section and fall in line airforce...
...to the left, to the left!
I loved real hard once and I swear the guy didn't give a damn about me! I professed my love for him every damn day and night and ALL he ever told me was "YOU COOL" "I LIKE U A LOT". He treated me like utter cow shit stuck to the bottom of his shoe that he couldn't seem to get off! I vowed to never tell another man I love them first!
Anon we still are having open enrollment for the BBC(Bitter Bitch Club) if you would like to sign up our next NO Sir meeting won't be until 8/22/08.
I had a guy who told me he loved me first and still treated me like shit. I think it was his way of tricking me into stay around.
Well they say you always hurt the ones you love! I don't know how true that is but I don't wanna find out!
Knowitall said that a wisewoman once told her that it's better to have a piece of a man opposed to no man at all. Well I'll tell you, I'm not honoring that shit at gunpoint. That's called settling. I have too much pride and dignity to get for such nonsense.
If it's "love" then you'll do everything in your power to make sure you don't hurt them and vice versa.
That wise old woman was Betty Wright "After the Pain" And I didn't say I agreed with it! Chris Rock said "You either gonna be married and bored or single and lonely" You decide because I've had enough of non sexually dating AF1!
well I believe that the only reason that it seems that you hurt the ones you love is because if you don't have love for the person, them hurting you really means nothing...
I beg to differ knowitall, I plan to have it all, if I'm married and bored then Ima spice it up!! If that boring ass nigga don't want to comply then Ima find my OWN excitement. I am single now and not lonely, I'm alone but not lonely, there is a difference..
^^^^^^^^ is happily single.
once you become happy with self, your happiness no longer stems from what another person says or does. Yuo determine how happy you are going to be at that point!
do you mean the Chinese Miranda who the hell is "Yuo?"
I had to get you and I am sure you will do the same for me in the future, tired ass....
Just reading the sisters in here take on Love & blah, blah, blah...is why I will stay away from it and why I am not againts interractial dating. Different ethnic groups (as a majority) don't have the same negative outlook on life & love as WE black folks do? Even if it starts off good its seems to always be that voice in the back of your head saying yeah right? I am 32yrs old & life is too short to spend it back and forth with people that have been ship wrecked in their earlier years and the rest of the world has to pay for it, because you had bad judgement.
I know that I chose the wrong type of women to wife and I didn't/don'y make other women pay for it. I took/take it as a lesson learned and moved on...thats what learning and growing is about.
Yes you do Mello you just don't know you are taking it out on her because you are doing the dirt.
FYI MEllO we don't give a f@@@ about black men dating outside of their race k pumpkin!!!!!
Hold em up gym shoe (Mello)...Classic! Y'all remember that?
Mello them as in the women who appear to be bitter are only a reflection of the actions that you give off. I refuse to let you slam all black women and say that THEY treat black men better.
They aren't going to be with you nor will their family respect you unless you are established better yet accomplished/
Black women on the other hand will have your back when you don't have shit and help you grow and develop yourself and your dreams...Once you're accomplished you leave the sista that's had your back for one of them.
They intend on taking your ass to the cleaners financially before the ink dries on the divorce docs.
Black women will just bust your car windows out and slash your tires.
Maybe if our black men would drop this tired ass "Playa" image and be REAL MEN the black race as a whole will be better off.
I swear a white man knows what to do. Brothas still talking about THE MAN is holding them down. Puhlease.
Agreed Mello, soooooo true!!! the only thing I disagree with is your quote "because you made bad judgement"
Alot of times your judgement can be skewed by a person who has been untrue to themselves and you. I have been in relationships where I thought that I KNEW the person that I was dating but somehow the tables were turned and the person I thought I knew wasn't exactly who they really were. That wasn't having bad judgement, that was being deceived.
We must also first recognize who is at fault an honestly take responsibility for our own part in the break up. There were alot of things that I could have done differently in relationships, and my actions therefore caused reactions that led to arguments and eventually break-ups. Alot of times it wasn't my fault. The only thing you can do is take what you have learned about people and yourself (providing you have learned anything) and apply it to your next conquest....
But, on the flipside, I must agree with Mello black women do seem to be a bit more harsh and bitter then other races.
Airforce I am not to willing to accept that my actions determined who you are. Maybe who you were to me, sure, but not who you grow to be in the future!!
I can't make you do anything. When you are running your mouth and I want you to shut it, (not you persay but in general) you gon talk till you're done right? When I want you to stop nagging the hell outta me, you gon get your point across no matter what correct? So don't tell me my actions have caused you to have a negative outlook on men, you CHOSE to have that outlook.
We see bad ass kids everyday, it doesn't change our outlook on wanting to have one of our own correct?
the white man is holding them down airforce, but that fact has nothing to do with how they treat their women...
Again, real women deserve real men. You must first exude what you want to align yourself with. Aside from the surface of you, (your job, your looks, your money,) all the shit that will fade with time. Are there any inside qualities that you feel you could tweak? First work on those and be the best YOU that YOU can be, don't worry so much about what black men are doing and acting. Let them have their PLAYA mentality, That doesn't mean that the man of your choice has to have that. If you constantly run across those type of niggas then you need to get behind the fact of why those type of niggas attract you. I don't have it out for fat women, why, because I don't date them. Therefore I do not ask them to change THEM to suit ME!!
You work on you, because you are the only person that you have dominion over. If our black women would realize THAT then they would realize that everything is not as fucked up as they would like it to be!
Well H20 I'm not saying I perfect but my inside qualities are just as f@@@@ fabulous as my outside qualities and does anyone appreciate them hell no. Men do what the hell they wanna do all the time and yall just expect us to deal with it. I don't have time to make a man feel like a man. You should feel like a man on your own no matter what I'm saying or doing. I don't need a man to say or do anything for me to feel like a woman so I don't get the whole you gotta let a man be a man? I mean what the hell is that about I attract all kinds of men and the playa mentality is in all of you!
H20 I don't ahave a problem with anybody dating whomever. What I do have a problem with is balck men blaming the reason that they step outside of their race is because of the reasons that Mello and many other black men use to justify their actions. Hell if you like "exotic girls" then do you. Why must black men make all black women out ot be the bitch that burned them. AF1 didn't fuck your friend...AF1 deosn't gold dig....AF1 ain't lazy neither does AF1 have a gazillion kids so dont throw me or other good black women under the bus with the hoes that do.
I don't entertain "playas" but I'm sure that a lot of women will agree that there are a lot of clowns out here.
Looks, money and whatever else you said does and will fade. I don't bank on either so my presentations are always me...the inner me which is very pleasant.
to whom though knowitall. I will admit that sometimes our view of self doesn't nearly match others view. Outside perception doesn't necessarily have to equal inside ya know.
Althogh I think you are BOMB!! Others might not feel the same.. feel me?
and AF1 nwever dated any of the men who claim to feel this way either...
again women do the same thing, H2O doesn't ahve a playa mentality, H2O doesn't feel that he has to hide how he feels, H2O has never felt intimidated by anyone whether they were intelligent and well paid or not. Why because H2O knows that YOU do not determine ME. Only I do....
We are all the same shit we just cirlce around different toilets, when you point a finger there are 3 fingers pointback at you...
Ya but I'm still a good person on the inside unless you cross me or do something bogus to me! I'm always nice until you prove unworthy of my kindness so if my looks are not your preference then my personality should be!
The fact of the matter is black men mess over black women all the time and can't understand why we are so bitter! Admit it h20 you have broken a couple of hearts in your life time! And now those women outlook is a little bleak. You do try to give each man it own chance to prove himself unworthy but if you see reminiscent signs of one of your old lovers that hurt you before you try not to let them hurt you all over again!
and I have had my heart broken a couple of times too...
Life is balance...
oh an your looks are definitely alot of people's preference just like AF1, but yall si crazy, which keeps you running into crazy folk!! LMAO!!
Lmmfao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
^^^^^^^^^^^^ is not crazy.
^^^^^^^^^^^^ is not crazy.
AF1 is crazy lol lol !!!!!!
Birds of a feather.....
I might be a lil off!
"You work on you, because you are the only person that you have dominion over. If our black women would realize THAT then they would realize that everything is not as fucked up as they would like it to be!"
True words to live by...
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