Posted on behalf of Blogger Class Act:
Let's say you are in a relationship. You and your mate both have went from ashy 2 nasty 2 classy together. Now that you are both successful and live in a certain comfort zone your mate has done a complete 360 on you and does not treat you the same and cheats repetitively. Do you stick around because you have had a hand in making your mate what he or she is today or do you leave and let someone else enjoy the fruits of your labor with your mate?
Friday, October 17, 2008
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This is a tough one. But in situations like this your relationship is a business opposed to a celebration of love and admiration for one another. Your mate is cheating. You're not happy of course so why stay.
If the success was built by the both of you then why not take that drive and determination and do your own thing. You are already familiar wuth the steps to success and it wont be hard to attain again.
Besides, who wants to be in a relationship where your mate is going to keep cheating on you because they know that you CANT go nowhere. He/she aint the one for you. Look at them as a season now go out and find your reason. He's not the only man with money, and if he was truly happy with me and all I have to offer he wouldn't cheat.
I say no way! I am not about to start over from ground zero and let another bioch come in add herself and stir and presto in she's got it good OH NO!
My grandmother always says, "when you see a nigga down...step on him". I didn't understand it at first but now I grasp the meaning very well. When they get up, they walk right over you.
Man or woman, when you help a person that you love better themselves, whether it's putting them through school or helping them get on their feet, they always forget they had assistance and choose to act up or better yet walk out of your life.
I'm not saying that they are forever in debt with you but damn, you sacrificed something in your life to try to make life pleasant for them.
See AF1 the whole thing with that is when you do help better someone man/woman they hate the fact that you knew them when they were a "0" and all the people who know them now that they are a hero make them feel good! So you constantly remind them of what they use to be and they want to forget that part of their life! After they change their gear,crib,whip and attitude they feel it's only right to change mates!
Michelle reminds Barack all the time where he came from and he don't seem like he wants another mate...or do he?
Who knows! There are exceptions to every situation! But as far as I know the wise old woman who told af1 that statement is correct I know many of couples whether street nucca/working nucca when they hit it big they traded up! Take J Hud for example!
C'mon CLass Act...How J Hud gonna get rid of her HS sweetie who motivated her to go and audition for Idol in the first place. WTF!!!
It looks like Michelle will kick Baracks hi yella ass.
traded up??? So while he sitting on the throne now looking good feeling good you sitting back reminiscing about what yall didn't have before and what it took for yall to come up? I know if that was me I'd be so busy flossing and par-laying just as much as he was! Don't do me do your old ass Cutlas with the wire coat hanger for an antennae boo!
Lmmfao!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's more like Angela Bassett in Waiting 2 Xhale! (I need you to be my backbone!)
I don't think you'll reflect on what yall didn't have. Your perspective will be more of this negro got some nerve.
My friend dates a guy with one leg shorter than the other. been with him for years. He now has a Range and gettin some attention and trying to show out. She had to remind him of who has been with when nobody even looked at his ass.
They Forget, that's all.
You know I don't think I would leave my mate I wouldn't give him the satisfaction! Then to have to go out and find someone new looking for love will take a lifetime so I'm keeping mine!(EVE gotta man)
And you reminding them only annoys them! They get tired of you holding that card over their had even though it's them that's acting a fool!( You was Reebok vandal now you were channel sandals)
or like Madea in Diary of a Mad...
"Now I say err'thing in here belongs to her now which half do you wnat, you want this half or this half?"
LOL!
Lmmfao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So you'll stay in a situation that you refer to as a relationship because......you don't want him to have satisfaction? He's satisfied all right. He's screwing someone else and you're maintaining the house. I'll be satisfied too with an inside maid and an outside piece who I can show off.
That's right class act don't leave em just tie that chain tighter! You let em go you'll be like Jennifer Aniston watching what could have been her and Brad as a super couple instead she sat back and watched as Angie big-lipped ass snatch him right from under her nose!
Right...give me my half. I understand that some people must stay because they probably can't get nobody else. If we got kids I'm leaving them with him too. Shit I'll see them everyother weekend and take them to get new shoes.
Baby I will be in MIA so quick with my new found freedom doing the fool. Aye Papi.
You dont have to leave right away, plan your strategy, stack money all that, just dont get distracted from your mission.. I am Professor Grey and I approve this message... sup AF1!!!
Lmmfao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's right I'll be the inside maid but I will be damned if another biouch come and live in the house I decorated and built all my memories in!( I picked out those drapes!) While he's slutting off I I'll be slutting off my self!
Baby Bye!!! I am not in the business of keeping shit that don't want to be kept and I'm not going to tie a chain tighter (hold a nigga hostage) when he's cheating anyway.
Are you really going to tell this man that he can't go out today or better yet give him a curfew. He already aint on you like that noway. You've already lost the battle.
I never give any man rules or curfews he's a grown ass man! Why should I leave if he wanna go then he's welcomed to leave but I ain't going nowhere baby bye!!!!!!! These hoes will find their own man and fix him up!
What's up Grey. Technology is the truth.
Right but Shani, Shaq's wife was finna wipe his ass clean for real. That nigga got his shit in order and straightened up, Now they are doing okay. If she would've played teh weak role and stayed he still would've been on bullshit.
You've got to give a man and children consequences. You act up Im going to financially rape you. Oppsed to saying okay you cheating but I aint going nowhere because I aint got shit better to do.
Actually He was divorcing Shani and he came to his senses! So her plan was never to go anywhere!
Im not here to try to change your mind but do your thing Class Act cause I'll end a man's life figuratively if he tries to pull a stunt with me.
I would politily drain all money out of our joint accouns and write my self a series of personal checks from his account. If he's a baller, I'm telling some local thugs where he keeps his stash and when the best time is to run up on him. I refuse to play victim and be stuck in a situation.
Don't try this at home. It only works for bout it bitches.
I got to step in. He thought he was about to divorce Shani until he found out that she had money in overseas accounts that he knew nothing about.
LOL, yall a mess! Yeah I think Shaq left her cause she was doing exactly what he was doing - cheating it's that when a man cheats he don't see it as wrong or he feels if he is the bread winner (as Shaq's situation) Shani ain't got no right to cheat esp. when you living in the house that Shaq bought, LOL!
He talked it over with his financial advisor and found that it was cheaper to keep her. That lady was enititled to half of his endorsements, full alimony and full child support for about 5 ugly kids. Don't be no fool.
"5 ugly kids" LOL!!!! Little Shaq Diesels, it had to be money to have all his babies!
There is no way on God's green Earth that I will stay with a man who cheats for the sake of having a man. Ladies, please have some dignity and pride. Seek counseling to raise your self esteem. The only man you need in your life is God. God bless you class act and women like you. Women like you will easily fall victim to domestic violence because you think you can't do any better.
Let her stay there. If she has no problem with it neithter should we. God didn't bless everybody with good sense and self respect.
But God blessed her with feet and legs to walk the hell outta his life! Now only if she can ask God to give her some good sense to actually tell those legs and feet to walk...
I gots plenty of good sense I ain't about to give up my top spot! And try and find somebody else no thank you and it has nothing to do with my self esteem it's about getting my due! (she gone be rocking chin-chila coats if I let you go she profit everything I taught if I let you go I can't let you go!)
Everybody doesn't think nor want the same things out of life. I can survive with or without a man. To some a man to them is oxygen and they can't breath with no air.
I mean I could say what I would do in that situation but I really don't know what I would do until it happened.
It's not even the point of needing him the fact of the matter is that most men cheat so what everytime somebody cheats I start from ground zero again and again and try to learn some new nucca ways and he learn mines when I could stick to the rivers and lakes I'm already use to!
That was me the last comment.
In the posting we are talking about the repetitive cheater. Who wants to get used to that?
Most men are repetitive cheaters too! So now what I mean we as women have to face facts most men cheat! And doing the whole I'm a single independent woman thing is cute when you are young but when you get up in age not so much! You need somebody to grow old with and no one is perfect not even you! Cheating is the norm! People will argue that it is still some good men out here but they are either gay or married or both!
When I find out that my guy is cheating I don't even want him to touch me. And from my attitude, we are never on good terms again because I will always think he's out with another girl. So to avoid all of that, I'll just start with something new and sexy. My old dude was cuttin up so I picked up another one just last week. I don't chase 'em I replace 'em.
And you are always gonna be replacing honey! Until you get tired and say I'll just keep this one!
I don't want nothing old but some money. Label me a Cougar now cause my boyfriend hasn't even been born yet...LMAO!!!!
Mariah is 20 years Nicks senior and so is Demi to Ashton. Gimmie a young buck.
NEXT!!!!!
None said anything about an old man Rif af1!
Who is RIF?
Reading is fundamental! I said get someone to grow old with not get an old man!
I don't agree I think there are still some pretty good men out here that are not married/gay or both! You just have to keep searching until you find one and when you get him treat him right!
It truly is and when you grow old with someone they as well as you get old. So I will reiterate, I will be in the biz of keeping me a young dude so Like Mariah and Demi and Halle, as they both age their men will still be at least 20 years younger.
So if he cheats you just gonna keep trolling the school yards until you get one that doesn't cheat?
I feel ya LILLIEBEll! But I been searching for a long time and BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAABy when I say I'm about to start dating outside my race only! These guys today I just don't know about them honey!
Well I still have faith that I will find someone he may be perfect but as long as he's not a cheater that will be fine with me!
Ok LILLIEBELL say he's not a cheater he could still be physically/mentally abusive so you are saying that's better than a cheater? He can be a dependent man who only wants a woman to take care of him is that better? Because it's gonna be something with him no one is perfect it's all about your tolerance when it comes to relationships!
Was it not the other day when mama knows marry a man that can do stuff for you and cheat w/a man that can do stuff to you?
i agree with anonymous. you know what they say...the people who are always telling someone to leave a relationship are the ones who are probably in a fucked up situation themselves!!!!! Im not saying its fine, but cheating has nothing to do with the person being cheated on most of the time. The hoes that are cheating with these men are the ones who want to believe the man doesn't love or care for his girlfriend or WIFE. I bet all the people who are saying "leave" are lonely and probably in love with someone else HUSBAND (or wife)RING A BELL ANYONE??? LOL
So Real which Anon are you agreeing with. Your point supported neither of ANON's comments. Please clarify!
People, you can not hold another (man/woman) responsible for your cheating mate's behavior.
Main Bitch/Wifey don't expect respect form others when your man wont respect you.
BabyGirls aka Side Bitch why would you ever think he would leave? If he does why in the hell would you want him?
DL brothas you'll never be brought to the forefront. Continue to play cousins (that's how they identify).
Men keep your multi-lives in check. Everyone should know their role and play the game accordingly. It cuts back on the drama and disappointment.
I am Mama Knows and I approve this message.
WHat's up Dat Nigga, KIA, Firefly, Arm Charm and Miranda.
So Real....really! No date for you on Friday night again, huh. "Ring a bell anyone" Obviously, aint nobody ringing nan one of your bells.
Bow in the presence of greatness.
I am ARM CHARM and I approve this message.
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