Tuesday, October 7, 2008
"Out of Respect for Me....."
Often times the souls in your life, be it lovers, friends, and family put you in a position to where you have to choose between your better judgement and their feelings. When these situations occur is there a right answer or correct solution? No one wants to go against there own principles, at the same time we don't take pleasure in hurting the ones we love. How do we decided between everyone else's feelings and your own? When do your circle's wants and needs trump your own? Why must we even choose? Got an example of a friend or family member putting you in an awkward position and making you choose between them and you? Tell us about it, and explain how you got out of that Chit unscathed....
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
31 comments:
I feel that if a person told you something to only try to help a situation, there is no need for you to turn around and put them on blast.
There are numerous effective ways to obtain information from a person without leading flat out saying well Air Force 1 said.
At that point the dynamic of the conversation will change and it would appear that one is gossiping opposed to tryign to find an even ground when the situation is touchy and involving friends.
Bottom line don't tell nobody I said shit. I get into enough shit on my own. Therefore, I don;t need no additional shit brought back to me twisted. Yeah, that's what I said.
I'm going through this right now. I have a friend that makes it her business to find herself in a emotional rollercoaster with her man. Which ever mad it might be. My problem is, i am her friend and I love her dearly so when she tells me things about her man, that upsets her it upsets me. I don't get the luxury of him whispering "baby I'm sorry" in my ear, so I don't forgive them as easy.
I know that its really not for me to forgive them, but how do I respect the man and choose to be cordial when I can't stand him because of what he has done to you. Than my mind goes to, well "if the bitch aint mad about it, then you shouldn't be" and its a valid statement!!! But when do I stop letting my friend turn my emotions on and off for someone. If I meet you and we cool then we cool, because you no longer are dating my friend, does that mean that I should now, but you on the do not call list? And if so, if you all get back together is it wrong for the boyfriend to think Im some sort of bitch for being flaky?
What do you mean you don;t know what this had to do with the topic. It is the topic. I now you have feelings, well no you don't but other people have feelings and they may not want to express certain things to you becuause of your teflon exterior. It wasn;t a secret but you always turn into fucking KE KE and get the "I wish a muh fucka would" attitude then you fly off the Katrina and her Hurricane and the aftermath not you FEMA.
Dat "N" ...it doesn't matter if taht man thinkls you are being flaky. Your loyalty lies with your friend not him. So when your friend falls out with their better ha;f tehn so should you and you must also ride or die with them. If they re-date them, then you just play cool cause this is your friends relationship not yours.
don't tell nobody shit and you won't get told on, no one can say anything about what you said if you keep your mouth closed. If I'm telling you something and I say, this is from me to you, 9 times outta 10 you still gon have one bitch you gon run and tell, its human nature, don't fight the war on gossip when you are the mouth in the hotseat....
Sometimes people tell you things because you are a good buffer and can say what is felt by whichever party without being hurtful.
Bottom line, if I said it, print it for all I care because if I truly cared about keeping it a secret I prolly wouldn'tve told you...
Don't really know what this had to do with the topic but ummmm okay...
right so If its their relationship why she I even be involved. How bout in friendships, so I meet you through a friend which I have, if yall fall out and I knew them longer do I now diss you?
Don't seem to hot of an idea now do it?
I vote for being my own person, you won't turn my life into the emotional wreck yours is, I don't expect you to not talk to someone for me, you're grown, hell if I acted like that I wouldn't have any friends cus none of them hoes like each other....
besides the above, it is a very touchy situation when your boy/girlfriend doesn't like your friends and vice versa. Being supportive doesn't mean being a doormat....
said the Typhoon to the Hurricane...
chile please, we are cut from the same mold and I have had to tell you more often than you telling me to keep my cool...
Close but no cigar...
miss me guys!!! I was away on Holiday (that's a fancy word for I took a couple of days off to visit family)
The topic today whoa!!!
To airforce, if you REALLY don't want information told, you probably shouldn't tell anyone. Just like you feel the need to share so do other people, so you can't be mad that people do the same as you do.
To Bp08, late bitch..
To Dat Nigga, look you will never please everyone. If there is someone that you don't want to like then don't fuck what your friends are talking about, you stick with what you know. In the end you will be the one looked at as the asshole friend and you can best believe your friend aint gon stand up for you against their man...
It does matter what the boyfriend thinks because they have the ability to sway an opinion of you and sometimes you will fall out with your friend for this...
before any of you come through here with the emotional not logical rebuttals take a moment to think about it and can you honestly say that a friend has never chose their man over you?
They will and tehy always do choose their man over you. My thing with DN is that if that if your friend needs you to bash their man, then yes do that. You may not have to do it to their man's face but let your friend know you got their back while their blowing off steam.
I don't tell nobody about they man. But I'm the first bitch that going to help my friend set it off.
I fancy your attempt to try to school us with the Queens English, but you aint the only one who works with Brits. Hell Imma be on Holiday from the world being fancied by a big bitch named G-G if my court case don't gop well today.
To BP 08 all I was saying to you wan not to make a new BFF.....that's all.
BFF BFF BFF BFF BFF X100...LOL
BP hates the term BFF.
I love it now, I have a new BFF so I'm milking it to the end....
who cares about this topic anyway?
Seems to me all you all do is gossip, now someone is mad cus what they told got told to someone else?
ANON what kills me is you never know what the hell you are talking about but always seem to have an opinion!!
No Bp08 ANON is kinda right, how are you gonna get mad about something you told getting told?
because it was told in confidence that is how!! It wasn't shared just to be put on the CW it was shared in the name of friendship and shouldn't have gon further than that...
and I'm sure what was told to the person that told was told in confidence too!! Right? Why is that person able to break their confidentiality agreement but you aren't?
That is the only reason why they are upset, because the probable should have kept their mouth closed and then none of this would have happened. But they told you something that they weren't supposed to tell you, and then you went and did the same dumb ass thing they did.
The first person to learn the news can stop anyone else from knowing and alleviate anyone getting told anything if they keep the news with them.
"I'm Miranda Hobbs and I approve this message"
LOL
Just because someone tells you something doesn't mean they want you to blast them out by saying "so and so told me..."
Sometimes people tell you because you NEED to know and they have feelings for you but don't necessarily want to be in the middle of no shit.
no better way to stay out of shit then simply staying out of it.
UUUGGH ANON and Miranda go screw yourselves...
bp08 were you the one who ran their mouth when you shouldn't have?
yes in a sense I ran my mouth about something someone said they felt about me? I called my self justifying my actions but of course since I'm involved the world has now ended and I am the one who's fault it was..
I'm stronger than most so they can blame me..
no matter..
so basically someone told you something someone said about you and you confronted them about it and the person that told you is upset about being outed as the source?
yep you guessed it Miranda...
well how does anyone expect you to hear something about yourself and not react to it? If they know you they know you are gonna say something!!
its not that they didn't expect me to react, they just didn't want to be implicated as the ONE who told me. But there is only a few people who can take their hurt feelings and apply logic to it and say "okay what's the best way to defend yourself againsts someone letting me have it, and not give away the teller.."
I reacted because my feelings were hurt, but that really aint allowed, (my feelings being hurt and me reacting to it) because I am usually the one trying to get people to calm down, before saying something they regret.
The problem is I care less what the outcome is after I have said what I have to say. I run the risk of losing a friend everytime I argue with one of them, if they leave oh well...
I have lost too much family to be worried about a friend not talking to me....
bullshit bitch,
If I don't want you to react and out me for telling you some dirt (especially about you) I won't say shit, because there is no way you will be able to properly address an issue that is bothering you halfway!
Again shut up and nothing you know will be told!!
that is so not the point Miranda
maybe its because you don't have any friends but there are certain rules in friendships. Unfortunately these rules are made up as we go along, but they are still rules. Many of my friends have told some dirt that I told them (they just don't think I know) but had I told them that they came back to me and said something they'd be mad, but how can you be when you started the goosip chain?
People have come back and charged me up about it too. It's cool, I ran that risk when I opened my mouth and I halfway expected it to be told, so I wasn't caught off guard, and I said it for a reason....
Post a Comment