Wednesday, October 15, 2008
"TIL DEATH DO US PART
If you are celebrating your last night out as a free man or woman, should you be allowed to "get busy" with the entertainment (stripper)? Why is it that most people feel like they are violating a sacred union even though it hasn't officially begun, and others don't? Last but not least, If you found out that your soon to be spouse got a little at his or her Bachelor(ette) party, would you be upset? Why or Why not?
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I wouldn't be upset cuz chances are I done got busy my damn self!
LMMFAO!!!
It's the prior to the wedding so no I wouldn't have anything to say.
Yes I would, even though we are not married yet we are still committed to each other and unless permission was given it's still betrayel.
BUt Jaytee the vows you will make are for better or worse. Unfortunately, that's one of teh worse things that can happen, so why would you give up on your love that easy?
Palin should he/she stick around and wait for the next time to be cheated on?
The reason people get upset about that kinda thing sis because you are already ina committed relstionship when you choose to marry. Being married just makes it official and sacred under God.
Wouldn't you be mad if your boyfriend or girlfriend went out a freaked a stripper, the night of the said freaking means nothing because no one chooses to get married out of the blue correct?
He's a Maverick and therefore this wouldn't be the first time he practiced infidelity and I can guarantee you it's wont be the last. Just love them for better or worse.
Lmmfao!!!!!!!! but as a maven I wouldn't be en pt to stay around and be cheated on I deserve better!
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If everyone thought that way no one would be better.
I would be salty. True committment doesn't start when vows are exchange...that's just script folk recite as part of the "Show".
Well 2each it's own cause I'm not about to be sticking around no damn cheater!
agreed mad poetic
you are in a committed relationship LONG (should be) before vows are exchanged, that is the reason vows are exchanged because you are in a committed relationship correct?
The "vows" represent the promise you are making to God, the promise made to each other happened long before this....
Bachelor and Bachelorette parties should fall under the don't ask don't tell policy...LOL Just say you "had fun but all the while you couldn't wait to get married and start your life as 2 becoming one"
Your spouse will melt and never ask you anythind else about that night....
I wouldn't care if my fiancee' got his groove on w/the scripper at his bachelor party cuz I'm proally gonna be up in that nucca face that I really wanted to be with in the first place to see if he ready to act right before I walk down the ail anyway! LOL!
Well that's how you set yourself up for disappointment. Ok let's honor this "don't ask don't tell policy" that you speak of and you think that this person has never did anyone outside of you and then a year down the line pictures surface on the internet of you boo with his face in God knows where on Ms. Kitty Kat's (local lo class stripper)body. Then you're upset...right? Well if expect it already then it's nothing to you.
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isn't it almost expected for people to get a lil freaky at their bachelor/ette parties anyway?
Yes in your case Miranda, expect any man who is marrying you to cheat.. LMAO!!!
Girl Melanie said it best the other night on The Game, "Life is messy" you wouldn't be with a person who is a complete loose ass. Well some people are, but seriously if you have a person who may have used bad judgement by peer pressure and binge drinking then maybe you need to re-evaluate who you are.
We are human, PEOPLE make mistakes everyday. Somebody on this blog is overweight and shouldn't have ate that cookie last night, but you did. Sho should you be penalized and sentenced to death. NO! But if your mate has NO DISCRETION, then that's a problem that lies deeper than their last night out.
...and if your spouse is a hoe, they don't have to wait until they last night to trick off.
I reiterate I don't care if my fiancee' has a fling w/the scripper cuz I'm bout gonna be telln lil ray ray this gonna have to be our last time doing this cuz I'z finna be marrried now!
@Blue Moon
Why even entertain the idea of marriage if he's flinging and you're checking for ol' dude to see if y'all can give it another go?
Because in life the things u need are not always the things u want! So in other words if the nucca that I really want to be with doesn't wanna marry me and I find somebody jus as good then I'm gonna go for it because I don't wanna be someone's girlfriend all my life and the nucca I need will suffice for that and I could proally learn to love him!
Wow Blue that was deep
"things that you need aren't always what you want"
I'm really feeling that statement but I'm torn at the same time because I feel like If I lived by that then I'd be settling. Yeah, you can grow to love someone out of that need to not be judged by the court of public opinion then proving that you are alone and not lonely. What about when the person who you dont genuinely begins to do little things that annoy you and you realize that you're not in love at all and actually you regret going home at night. Not only do you regret it but you don't want them touching you and sex becomes a chore opposed to a night of passion. That type of pressure will drive a person insane. I would rather be alone than with someone and unhappy.
Well that's the thing you have to "settle" for someone that you do acutally like and care for. See you may not love/like him as much as that guy who just(so help me god)won't act right. And the key is to find someone who treats you the why you need to be treated and you also have to remember you are not perfect either and things you do will annoy him as well!
I'll take that guy whom I love who won't act right for $500 Alex.
You can't always be with the person you love sometimes it hurts too much!
Well if that works for you Af1 go for it. See I realize that the guys I really like and want to be are not the guys I need to be with because they just don't appreciate me! I will not be with someone who doesn't realize my true value! I need someone to love me and treat me like the queen I am and usually the guys I love are not willing to do so!
So af1 if the guy you love who won't act right is a cheating you are will to deal?
Sorry that should have been
So Af1 if the guy whom you love is a cheater you are willing to deal?
If the guy that Im crazy about is a toy and not my husband, and we have a good time together, yes I will deal with him on a see you when I see you basis opposed to feeling held hostage with a man who is good for me tha I prolly cant even stand.
Life isn't person, it's very messy and short so I may as well have FUN.
So Maven you'll actually be cool being married to a man who you think is a goofy? You dont like lames now, but you're telling me you'll tolerate one for teh sake of being married. I call BULLSHIT.
I would rather be with a man that treats me well! If a man is treating me good I can't help but love! The man you love who don't act right in the first place how long do you think it's gonna be before you start to hate him for mistreating you and not giving you the things you need out of the relationship?
That's the thing I would never marry a lame for the sake of being married I will marry someone who loves me much more than I love him that treats me good and can deal with me and I can deal with him he doesn't necessarily have to be a lame just first runner up to the man I really love who just won't commit or treat me the way I need him to!
Blue there is a man right now who I know will treat me right and love and honor and respect me but I can stand his ass....LOL! I be like if this negro call me one mo time imma snap. He's a great person but I can t do it.
Okay, I can honor that...if I can like you then I will. But if I have 0 toleration, then hell no.
Well he's not for you! It has to be a person that you at least like and can tolerate! See if you think about men they are not so concerned with packing men go for who treats them the way they need to be treated. So when a man leaves his hi-profile lawyer wife for Quenish w/5kids it's because she treats him better. We as women need to look at how men treat us rather than their swagger or status!(Of course I'm not saying marry a goofy /lame/bum/)
I don't know BM. For some reason the ones I treat the worst are the ones who come on stronger. The ones that I am good to always are the liars and cheaters. I'm not even a swagger jocker.
Here, Here ....that fool is not for me.
Then Ac neither of those men are for you because they have self esteem issues that you don't have time to deal with you are not Dr.Phil! Find someone who like to be treat good and treats you good as well!
Ladies, love is not what it's all cracked up to be. Marry a man for what he can do for you. Look outside for the one that can do stuff to you. Once you can separate the two you'll be better off. There are no disappointments with your husband because he is there for a financial purpose, better yet the foundation for the family.
Anon I think I can find a man that can be the foundation, treat me well and I'll be able to care deep enough for him that I won't have to search for anything outside!
That's a treasure. Good Luck! Men are built totally different from women. They are rational we are emotional.
Let me ask you this, if you're out with your man and he's looking at a lady with a drop dead gorgeous woman with a banging body and he can't barely focus on you at the moment how are you going to react Maveen?
Would you say he's being disrespectful and bitch him out or are you going to act as if you're busy digging through your purse and didn't notice him looking?
NO I'Am gonna ask him "You like that huh?" "Too bad she wouldn't give you the time of day!" I don't have a jealous bone in my body hon!
You see anon I too operate off logic and not emotions!
Im going to cut up. And he better hope I didn't drive cause Imma tell him to see to that bitch taking him home. Can't take your ass nowhere without you showing out. It's not about me being jealous either but dont do me do your hair.
I know you didn't ask me but the spirit moved me.
Y'all done pissed me off with that question. Hell it's not like a person is jealous but his ass aint no damn Boris Kodjo/Tyreese (that sounds like fun) either so he got some fucking nerve.
Nope Af1 I ain't gonna cut up he just better make sure he don't cut when a raw nucca pull up next to us in traffic and I can't stop smiling at him!
Hell my man can look just cuz you with someone doesn't mean you blind hell I'm gonna look at other men too!
Why even acknowledge it Maveen? That means that from now on he will have to sneak. Do not blow up AForce.
Look at her to and make a positive comment or better yet compliment her shoes or even her body. You can jokingly say "now that's a brickhouse."
You never want a man to see you sweat, no matter how subtly you do it, Maveen. Those are emotions. You want him to relax around you that way you'll know what he's capable of. A man is going to look. Don't deny him that. Take him to a strip club and get him a lap dance. You choose the coldest chick in there for him. A man loves nothing more than a confident woman.
Like I said before, love is over rated. You want a bond. You fall in and out of love with a person throughout the course of a month. Have you ever had those I love you but I'm not in love with you moments. Okay, make sure you haev a bond. Nothing can or will break a bond. Believe that.
I already know what a man is capable of from dealing with them so loooooooooong!!!!!! FYI men hate confident women they always feel the need to take you down a notch or try to show you you ain't all that!
That's why you should marry them for what they can do for you. All the other esteem breakers they try to pull wont matter because your heart isn't fully vested anyway. Your transition to the next provider will be easy. Leave love to the the fairy tales with the happy endings. Blue Moon said it more eloquently than me but get in where you fit in. Don't figure this out when it's to late. USe your youth and beauty while you're young.
OH anon you are so wise!
Love is for the birds and suckas!
You are a "sucka" if you are bitter and continuously look for love. Love hurts and it's not fair.
I'm not even sure if being swept off your feet truly exists because I heard older women women tell you to make sure that he loves you more than you love him. Had we (women who've been hurt more than 2x) taken heed to that you wouldn't have been bitten but the bitter bug. I'm not trying to clown anybody but the ol' G's (moms, aunts and grand ma's) pass that game around religiously.
Listen to these older women. They've been where you young ladies are and will save you a years of heartache. Differnet generation, same men.
Formerly the other Anon who was speaking with Maveen, Blue and Aforce.
I'm out.
Well mama don't know everything just because you haven given up on lovet doesn't mean others should! Let me believe love is waiting for me!
I truly believe it's somebody for errrrrrrbody now how happy you are gonna be with that somebody is up to you!
No need to take your frustrations out on me deary beacuse HE hasn't come 'round yet. I get a healthy dose of Vitamin D from someone who loves me.
You just keep waiting.
okay I have had enough of you liars in here. Everyone can sit here and say what they would and wouldn't do in the name of love but logic is thrown out the window when your heart has been pierced. Not only does cheating make you feel unwanted and unloved but it makes you feel like a fool, so even if you are thickskinned enough to KNOW that it isn't your fault that your partner cheated, you will never get over being played.
I have had friends who I knew for a fact were in over their head in a so called physical relationship. Because they were lying to themselves by saying "oh he's or she's just something to do" BULLSHIT, no one spends time with a "just something to do" if you all have fucked and he or she is still lying there after the nut, then you got feelings fools, and them same feelings will cause you to act a damn fool when you thought you were in complete control.
Going into a relationship, without a clear understanding of what is expected makes you look like a damn maniac, you have agreed to these bogus terms yet for some reason your heart won't let your mind tell your mouth to shut up when you are fussing about "why he or she won't call me?" or "I can't stand that bitch or bastard" How on earth can you muster up enough emotions to "can't stand" someone if they are just a fuck anyway?!! FUCKS don't make you mad, they fuck you and leave!! When you start doing that then you will be better off.
Men Stop treating your jumpdowns like wifey and you won't be upset when the bitch tricks off and you won't be caught standing outside her apt hiding behind shit you KNOW you can't hide behind!!!
Ladies, stop telling yourself that you can seperate your pussy from your heart!! NONE OF YOU CAN DO THAT!! If you can yousa bad bitch and are an alien race of female. EVERYBODY wants to be with someone!! Combine a good joog with a very nice conversation and a good time and you have the perfect formula for love!!! Resistance is futile!! If you are honest it will keep yo silly ass from running out and purchasing the Jazmine Sullivan single "Buss Your Windows Out Your Car" Why bother buss that nigga head not his windows if you so damn bad!!!
Gay Guys.. stop whining about niggas who don't give a shit about you. Half the fun of being a guy dating a guy is that you don't have to deal with them bitchy ass emotions that females embody. The second you start acting like nagging bitch is the same second that your man becomes unattracted to you! If he wanted someone to nag him to death he'd be witha female!! MEN WHO LIKE MEN LIKE MEN dumb asses!!!
Gay Girls, stop acting like yo bitch don't find other bitches attractive and getting mad when they look. 9 times outta 10 them same bitches was married when they peeped you out!!
I hope I have covered everything, if not see me on Friday when I tell these losers the real deal about their zodiac sign
I am Professor Xtra and I approve this message
Next Caller!!
I can definitely separate my pussy from my heart I do it all the time now I do want someone but if he don't want to be with me like that and the sex is good then I can still fuck him! I know my place at all times and I never trip and that real talk no bs!
yeah yeah yeah.... BB
let that nigga tell you he don't want to be with you like that and then start coming around with the wifey treatment for a good 2 weeks and then vamp out, and tell me where yo pussy at then...
I'll tell you, you and Jazmine Sullivan gon call each other up on the phone and discuss the blueprints of his car and block its parked on....
Negative I never engage in childish activities such as bussn out windows! my pussy gonna be where it's always at and it don't matter how a nigga treat you it's what he says that matters if he say "You cool but I don't think you could be my girl" then you need to keep that in the back of your mind at all times! Niggas treat wifey like shit all the time but it doesn't mean she ain't his girl and niggas treat sideline hoes like wifey all the time and they ass still on the side!
yes but none of them hoes, including you (not calling you a ho) believe that they are actually a sideline ho when they treatment doesn't dictate that. Besides maybe you can seperate the two, that would put you in the alien race status I spoke of before Kudos to you then, why don;t you write a book and outline jsut exactly how to keep that shit in mind when a nigga tell a bitch he really don't want to be with them but givin them wifey treatment and please people lets use a little common sense here, when I say wifey treatment you do know I ain talking about the shitty treatment some men give their wives...
it amazes me how left people go when they are trying to refute your point...
Whether a man treats wifey like sugar or shit she stil wifey. Why do you think women cheat with men who are married and get caught up, cus they all in the "it aint gon be me" syndrome the only difference in your pussy and the next broads is the fact that it is yours....
Why women are so willing and able to trade places with a woman that is being cheated on I will never know...
Niggas the same way too, I got a friend right now who for his b-day I told him "here goes $10 bucks buy yourself tow sacks on me cus yo wife took the ones yo momma gave you at birth..."
simpletons...
my bad that should be "two sacks"
bad bitch is lying she prolly in love with a nigga that aint hers right now!
Lmmfao!!!!!!!!!! I was only meaning that even if a nigga treats you like sufflee' if he told you you are not his girl then it t-iz what it t-iz! I don't know why women think they are so special that if he's cheating and leaving his girl for you that he won't do it to them! But as for me if date you while you have a girl you can never be my man!
Look anon I ain't in love with nobody right now especially a man that belongs to someone else that's an oxy moron!
it would take and oxy moron to pull such a stunt too
Right on Professor extra! That's the way to tell em!
Loves ya!
Why does this professor think that everybody is just dumb in love with a man that they screwing. We have learned to separate our cooch from our hearts. Matter fact we on more dumb shit dealing with a man with a wife than he is with us. What!!! You got a wife at home, PAY THESE BILLS, let me give you some and tehn go back to the bitch you traded vows with. Yeah you might like teh dude a little but only the silly hoes "he's gonna leave her one day for me" are teh only ones that get caught up in the matrix. Red or green pill you live and you learn.
That's right woo woo cause some these hoes be swallowing both pills!!! Lmmfao!!!!
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